COVID-19 |10 Tips That Make Talking To Your Sons About It Easier

COVID-19 |10 Tips That Make Talking To Your Sons About It Easier

It has been almost 6 months since the United States first declared a national emergency as a result of the COVID-19  outbreak. And as this global pandemic continues to evolve, many parents continue to struggle to have conversations with their children that aren’t based in fear, uncertainty, or anxiety about the future.

We have all felt the impact of the coronavirus outbreak, whether it is from a loss of routine, the isolation that often comes with quarantine or social distancing, information overload from the news or the health impacts from the virus itself. But the African American community has been disproportionately impacted by this outbreak, which can make conversations about coronavirus with our children that much more difficult. With black people testing positive and even dying at disproportionately higher rates, and with the continued uncertainty of the coronavirus pandemic, how can we, as parents of young African American boys, manage our children’s fears?

Here at Blue Heart, we are committed to bringing you the latest information on the issues that affect our community today. Continue on for a list of 10 tips from experts on how to talk to your children about coronavirus.

 

Tip #1 – Welcome his questions

Experts at the Child Mind Institute recommend welcoming all of your child’s questions, even those that may be hard to answer. With so much uncertainty present, children often have questions that they may not be asking. Create a space for your child to share those with you, from his sillier questions to those that might surprise you. This approach will help your son feel heard and create an avenue for him to get fact-based information directly from you

 

Tip #2 – Check in with yourself

In creating a space that welcomes your child’s questions, it’s important to check in with how you are approaching the conversation. As parents, we know all too well that our children can pick up on what we aren’t saying as well as what we do say. Experts at the Child Mind Institute suggest taking time to deal with your own anxiety and be calm before having a conversation about COVID-19.

 

Tip #3 – Set the tone

Checking in with yourself will help you set the tone for your conversation about the COVID-19 pandemic. Now, you have the opportunity to filter information and set an emotional tone, as appropriate to fit your son’s needs. So, instead of relying on the news that he may have overheard or misheard, your son can rely on the information that you convey.

 

Tip #4 – Let him direct the conversation

While you should set the tone in conversations about the COVID-19 outbreak, the Child Mind Institute recommends that parents take cues from their children. Invite them to share with you how they feel about the coronavirus outbreak, what questions they have about the virus or what they may have heard. This way, parents have the chance to establish a counter narrative to any potentially damaging or scary thoughts that may be lingering in their minds

 

Tip #5 – Provide reassurance

In conversations about COVID, counter narratives will help you provide reassurance to your child by centering the conversation on what steps your family is taking to stay safe. Let your child know that it is ok to feel scared, but emphasize the safety precautions that you, your family, and those around you are taking to reassure and empower him.

 

Tip #6 – Stick to the facts

This next tip is a simple one – stick to the facts. As the parent, you need to consider your child’s age and developmental level in determining what is appropriate to share, but you should always share fact-based information. According to the CDC, it’s important to stick to the facts and address the rumors and inaccurate information that may be present in stories of coronavirus on the Internet and social media. 

 

Tip #7 – Address the risk factors

In sticking to the facts, you will encounter a harsh truth about COVID-19 and the African American community. In California, there are almost twice as many black people with cases of coronavirus compared to white people. This is especially concerning because there are almost 7x as many white people than black people in the state.

In conversations with your son about coronavirus, be real about the vulnerabilities that African Americans face, especially as it relates to African American men in society today. Use information from the CDC to help your son understand why these risk factors exist. As  mentioned before, use your judgement to determine what level of information is appropriate and what level of information could result in your child feeling overwhelmed.

 

Tip #8 – Focus on the positive

While black people have higher incidence and mortality rates across the country, our community is also the most optimistic and resilient as it relates to mental health. In a recent study, researchers found that African Americans generally remain more optimistic than whites do in the face of the pandemic. Notably, low-income African Americans remain the most optimistic race-income group and they report significantly better mental health than their low-income white counterparts. Be sure to focus on the positive in your next conversation about COVID-19 with your son.

 

Tip #9 – Prepare him for what’s next

Use resources from the state and the school district to help your son feel more certain about his academics for this upcoming year. This is a great opportunity to minimize uncertainty about the future, too. By keeping your child in the loop, he will feel more informed, which can also help to address any anxieties about returning to school in-person or online.

 

Tip #10 – Continue the conversation

Lastly, as the COVID-19 pandemic continues to evolve, it’s important to keep these conversations going. Let your child know that you will keep him updated. The Child Mind Institute suggests reassuring your child that although you may not have all the answers now, you will let him know as you learn more. Additionally, make yourself available to talk if further concerns arise for your child.

With the constantly changing coronavirus situation around the world, The Blue Heart Foundation recognizes that this is an unprecedented time for everyone. Our hearts and thoughts go out to each and every one of you. During these unusual times, Blue Heart is here to help parents and students alike. Learn more about our programs and resources here.

 

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At The Blue Heart Foundation, we believe in empowering African American boys by equipping them with more than just academic knowledge. Our mission is to nurture a strong, positive mindset, instill the value of higher education, and introduce the transformative wisdom of metaphysical principles. We are committed to helping these young leaders develop the confidence, critical thinking skills, and spiritual grounding they need to overcome obstacles, excel academically, and lead with purpose.

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Blue Hearts Amir Duke : Morehouse Man

Blue Hearts Amir Duke : Morehouse Man

My name is Amir Duke…

…a sophomore Economics Major attending Morehouse College from San Diego, California. Attending an HBCU has opened my eyes up to many opportunities in the black community.

I’ve learned so many precious facts about my history and culture. Being able to meet and interact with so many brilliant African Americans from all respected HBCU’s in the AUC has been humbling. For Donald Trump to label African Americans as thugs, it is disrespectful to us but our ancestors too. As a student attending an HBCU, I feel much safer on my campus than in the city. What those police officers did to George Floyd was inhumane, and we have every right to be angry because this has gone on too long.

“For Donald Trump to label African Americans as thugs is disrespectful…” 

This is 400 plus years of generational trauma, and when I get older, I don’t want my kids facing the same struggles. The Black Lives Matter movement is a way to express the fact that we are tired of being oppressed, we are exhausted of dealing with systemic slavery, and we are drained from the constant hate towards our people. We protest not only for George Floyd but for every life that has been taken from us.

 

Excerpts from Amirs Interview in the SDVoyager…

Today we’d like to introduce you to Amir Duke.

“Amir, please share your story with us. How did you get to where you are today?”

From the start of high school, I knew that helping people and giving back was my passion; I did it to see the outcome of giving back. During my freshman year of high school, I joined a mentoring program called the Blue Heart Foundation. This organization focused on under-served youth ages 13-18 in the greater San Diego County community.

The Blue Heart Foundation is also a non-profit organization that mainly dedicates its time to give back to the community, S.A.T. & A.C.T. prep work, and show persuasive examples of peer to peer mentorship. As I matriculated through high school, I stuck with the program dedicating every weekend to community service.

With the plan came many great benefits such as guaranteed four-year admissions to universities and colleges. By the end of my high school career, I’ve gained over 1,000 hours of service and was awarded senior academic stand out. As I went through the program, I achieved many accolades in my young academic career. Before choosing Morehouse College, I received three full scholarships from Central State University, Talladega College, and Virginia State University. Being accepted to 61 colleges and universities around the nation is just one major accomplishment.

I received the AAACE Scholarship, A.C.E. Scholarship, Blue Heart Foundation Scholarship, and HBCU Homecoming Tour Scholarship. Over the four years of high school, I have been acknowledged by receiving the Barack Obama Community Service Award, United States House Of Representatives Award, 78th California District Community Service Award, 79th California District Community Service Award, and Legacy Community Service Award. As my high school years ended, I knew that my success would follow at Morehouse College; as I completed my freshman year as an Economics Major, I was nominated to be a Martin Luther King Jr. Legacy Scholar, joined many clubs such as the Pre-Alumni Association, and The Morehouse National Action Network. As the academic year concluded, I was able to start a business that helps young scholars in high school get prepared for college.

This business is a non-profit called College Qualified. College Qualified assists students with a highly customized service specifically tailored to each student’s needs. We offer a broad range of comprehensive college planning services, including admissions guidance, career exploration, comprehensive financial aid literacy, individualized mentoring, scholarship development, and university selection. Now that I’ve been able to get the hang of college and my non-profit, I plan to start many more opportunities for future leaders.

 

“We’re always bombarded by how great it is to pursue your passion, etc – but we’ve spoken with enough people to know that it’s not always easy. Overall, would you say things have been easy for you?”

Read the Full Interview Here

 

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At The Blue Heart Foundation, we believe in empowering African American boys by equipping them with more than just academic knowledge. Our mission is to nurture a strong, positive mindset, instill the value of higher education, and introduce the transformative wisdom of metaphysical principles. We are committed to helping these young leaders develop the confidence, critical thinking skills, and spiritual grounding they need to overcome obstacles, excel academically, and lead with purpose.

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Peer Mentoring- Is it Really Effective?

Peer Mentoring- Is it Really Effective?

What is Peer Mentoring?

From planning high school classes to preparing for your first semester on campus, having a mentor is one of the best ways to navigate through new and challenging phases of life. Mentoring can be transformational in academic and professional development, especially for underserved youth.

 

The traditional mentoring structure consists of an established professional, teacher, or member of the community as a mentor who shares their expertise with a younger mentee. It provides a formal arrangement that allows for a mentor, with decades of invaluable experience, to provide guidance based on what they know. But with rapidly evolving high school curriculum, college application requirements, and college campus environments, older mentors may be out of touch with today’s challenges.

 

What worked for mentors many years ago may not work for the current student today.

Peer to peer mentoring can fill that gap. Unlike traditional mentoring, there is no significant difference in skills between the mentor and the mentee. While this may seem counter-intuitive to the skill-sharing purpose of having a mentor, it’s important to consider the value in building community with peers. Peers often go through similar challenges and have similar interests because they are around the same age. By sharing their learnings, hopes, and concerns with each other, they create feelings of solidarity that can help them navigate through youth together with meaningful interactions. With an equally knowledgeable mentor, both parties are empowered to progress together toward a mutual vision. With a significantly more knowledgeable mentor, the mentee must follow the mentor’s guidance and be led through growth and development.

 

Common peer to peer mentorship arrangements include pairing older students with incoming students. This way, the older students can give detailed insight about specific subjects that someone who got their diploma many years ago might not know about. Another example of peer to peer mentoring could be high school juniors and seniors paired with college freshmen or sophomores. The new college students have recent experience with applying to and getting ready for college that can be extremely helpful to high school juniors and seniors that are about to start the college application process.

 

The American Psychological Association (APA) reviewed numerous peer to peer mentoring programs and found that peer mentors are best suited to coach prospective students on how to conduct themselves in a college interview and how to select courses with the most engaging professors. Just like the prospective college student, the enrolled peer mentors have sat through rigorous exams and have experienced almost exactly what the prospective student is going through.

 

Peer mentors are in the best position to provide the most relevant and applicable study strategies and tips on how to decompress after exams.

Research done by the National Mentoring Resource Center suggests that peer mentoring benefits both the mentor and the mentee. Positive impacts on the mentee include an increase in connectedness at school, an improvement in relationships with teachers and parents, and a boost in their self-esteem. Additionally, another field experiment showed that peer to peer mentorship resulted in increased persistence through academic difficulty for mentees. Simultaneously, the mentor has opportunities for youth leadership and development. In the mentoring role, they learn how to manage their own behavior in interactions with the mentee by using tactics like active listening and conflict resolution.

 

The less rigid structure of peer to peer mentoring can take on many forms and benefit both the mentor and the mentee. Without all of the formalites, talking to someone around the same age can be more comfortable than talking to an established professional. While having professional interactions is great practice for youth who aspire to work in an office one day, there is a possibility that the mentorship can focus too much on outward presentation and public speaking skills, and not enough on interpersonal and character development.

 

Without the pressure of having to keep up appearances, youth have an opportunity to be at ease and approach their mentorship in a more easygoing manner. This dynamic creates a more open environment, which can help both parties be more receptive to constructive feedback that will ultimately help them become better people inside out.

 

We believe that young people supporting one another is crucial in the empowerment of youth. In all of The Blue Heart Foundation’s outings, from college tours to community service, we encourage the boys to look out for each other. We want our boys to be prepared for the unique challenges they are facing in and out of the classroom. This is especially important right now, as they are adapting to distance learning due to COVID-19.

In an effort to help provide support to our students, The Blue Heart Foundation is launching the Alumni Connection Distance Mentoring program. We will be pairing our Blue Heart current high school students with Blue Heart alumni, Kylen Dent, Kaori Andersen, Amir Duke and Djarese Bleveins  to help them navigate the current realities of their academic and personal lives.

 

We are proud to help create space for youth to support one another during these unusual times. We recognize this is a challenging time for us all. The Blue Heart Foundation is here to help, and we‘re responding in a few ways to keep you and your child safely connected. Read about our response efforts and access to online resources. Check out  our H.E.A.R.T Academy page to learn more about our ongoing programs.

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At The Blue Heart Foundation, we believe in empowering African American boys by equipping them with more than just academic knowledge. Our mission is to nurture a strong, positive mindset, instill the value of higher education, and introduce the transformative wisdom of metaphysical principles. We are committed to helping these young leaders develop the confidence, critical thinking skills, and spiritual grounding they need to overcome obstacles, excel academically, and lead with purpose.

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Meet De Leon Boudreaux

Meet De Leon Boudreaux

Class of 2020  

About De Leon

My name is De Leon Boudreaux, I am a 17-year old senior who is currently attending Mission Bay High School. I am born and raised as well as live in San Diego.

I have steadily improved in my schoolwork and strive to do my best in my classes all the way into my senior year. My entire school career has revolved around music and performing arts. I currently sing and beatbox in a professional level choir as well as sing in my school jazz ensemble. Currently it is my goal to push my talents and experiences onto a college level.

About 3 to 4 months ago my mom decided to bring me into the blue heart program. During the time I didn’t exactly have a vision of how my life would be after high school and thought because I messed up in my earlier years I would not be able to pursue a collegiate career; However moving into blue heart truly changed the mindset I had before i joined.

After Joining Blue Heart, Tracy and my blue heart brothers taught me what it meant for me to have a real brotherhood and though I thought I really knew what that meant, after joining blue heart I really felt a true sense of what it meant to have someone there as a brother. They Also introduced me to resources that would help me get into college and since joining I have gotten acceptance letters from 4 Universities.

I Really Appreciate what the Blue heart association has done not only for me but also the other students in the program and I can’t wait to see what my blue heart brothers will accomplish in the future.

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Together We Rise!

 

 

At The Blue Heart Foundation, we believe in empowering African American boys by equipping them with more than just academic knowledge. Our mission is to nurture a strong, positive mindset, instill the value of higher education, and introduce the transformative wisdom of metaphysical principles. We are committed to helping these young leaders develop the confidence, critical thinking skills, and spiritual grounding they need to overcome obstacles, excel academically, and lead with purpose.

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Black Male Mentors | Top 4 Reasons Why They Are Essential

Black Male Mentors | Top 4 Reasons Why They Are Essential

Black Male Mentors Just Makes Sense

Why is having good black male mentors so important? Well, Representation is everything. Especially for our youth, who are easily impressionable. Representation helps them to expand their mindset and see that they can achieve anything they want in life. The ultimate black male mentor, former President Barack Obama is a perfect example – because of Barack, millions of black boys across the globe know that they have the potential to be fearless and respected political leaders in this country.

This places a significant importance on mentors, particularly for underserved youth. A mentor is a trusted counselor or guide who provides support in various aspects of the mentee’s development, whether academic or professional. Most importantly, a mentor is someone who emulates and personifies all that our youth aspire to be. For many, a mentor is integral to reaching their goals and their character development. In a position of such influence to the mentee and their community, choosing the right mentor for underserved youth is critical. Read on to learn why black male mentors are the best choice for young black boys.

 

#1 – They are culturally responsive | The Top 4 Reasons Why Black Male Mentors Are Key

It’s established that black boys face many challenges growing up, including the failure of key systems that are supposed to help shape their development. Considering black boys have a unique set of experiences growing up that often influences their development, it’s important that their mentors have also had those experiences too. In order to properly address those challenges, they must be acknowledged first. If the mentor does not have firsthand experience as a black male with these challenges, mentor/mentee relationships can be susceptible to cultural misunderstandings and mistrust. And like all relationships, successful mentorships are based on empathy and trust.

 

Knowing the current reality of outcomes for black boys, mentoring programs must be culturally responsive or else they can fall flat for both parties. This starts with knowledge and awareness of the discrimination and systems of oppression that black men face and is sustained with open discussion throughout the mentorship. When this happens, the mentee is able to practice engaging in a higher level of thinking with another like-minded adult and they begin to develop healthy attitudes and beliefs about their race.

 

#2 – They reinforce positive racial identity | The Top 4 Reasons Why Black Male Mentors Are Essential

Discussions about race, while not always easy, ultimately results in a stronger racial affiliation and feelings of connectedness within the community. Underserved youth who once felt alone and misunderstood can now build on the common ground they have with their mentor to boost their own self-worth. Black mentors act as positive influences that can challenge any negative internalized feelings that underserved youth may have about their own race.

Black male mentors provide black youth with a renewed sense of value that positively impacts their personality and actions.

Additionally, research shows that positive racial identity is strongly associated with more academic motivation for African American middle and high school students. When youth are able to define themselves in terms of their race, they feel a sense of group pride and have a more positive academic performance. While there are many factors that can contribute to the racial identity of under-served youth, having a mentor of the same race provides a direct connection to who they are.

 

#3 – They have critical consciousness | The Top 4 Reasons Why Black Male Mentors Are Essential

Because they have a common understanding, black male mentors and black boys can have real conversations. Talking about the implications of race and socioeconomic status will allow the pair to discover how these issues may affect their everyday lives and develop a critical consciousness. Critical consciousness is the ability to perceive and understand social, political, and economic oppression’s. With critical consciousness, it’s possible to deal with these issues and take corrective action that can result in tangible change for our under-served youth.

If under-served youth have the tools to discuss and understand racial and socioeconomic issues, they are able to position themselves to not be conquered by it.

This empowerment gives young black boys the capacity to understand their strengths and also have a respect for the perseverance and resilience of their community, which will then help them persevere through the challenges they may face growing up.

 

#4 – They help addresses opportunity gaps | The Top 4 Reasons Why Black Male Mentors Are Essential

The unique challenges that young black men may face can cause them to disproportionately experience economic and social disadvantages. This includes over-referral for school disciplinary action and special education as well as obstacles in enrollment and completion of college that can have serious and lasting implications on their future earning potential. However, a mentorship can act as both an intervention and a networking connection to turn those challenges into opportunities.

Black male mentors provide black youth with both proactive support to enhance their success and a second chance to be reconnected to the essential structures that will help them reach their full potential.

 The consistently supportive nature of the mentorship provides a safe place to work through the concerns and struggles that young black mentees may have in reaching critical milestones in school and interpersonal relationships. Mentorship provides an avenue for the mentor to share their personal and professional knowledge and expertise that can help young black boys navigate through those milestones and think more broadly about their future. For example, black professionals have had to develop tools that empower them to be self-sufficient and distinguished workers to succeed in today’s job market. As a black mentor, they can share these tools and provide invaluable guidance to their mentees.

 

Mentorship is at the core of The Blue Heart Foundation’s focus on the empowerment of under-served youth.

As a part of our program, participants receive academic mentoring, as well as personal and professional development workshops. We believe that the benefits of mentoring extend to both the child and the adult, so we aim to be recognized as an expert coaching, training and ongoing mentoring resource for under-served youth. Click Here to learn more about volunteering and mentoring opportunities.

 
Together We Rise!

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At The Blue Heart Foundation, we believe in empowering African American boys by equipping them with more than just academic knowledge. Our mission is to nurture a strong, positive mindset, instill the value of higher education, and introduce the transformative wisdom of metaphysical principles. We are committed to helping these young leaders develop the confidence, critical thinking skills, and spiritual grounding they need to overcome obstacles, excel academically, and lead with purpose.

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